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[JimsTexas]

Adrian Peterson saying he will not use a switch on his child again. I am older than a lot of you and when I was growing up in the 50 and 60 i was spanked with a belt and a switch. This in no way means my parents abused me. They were loving and caring parents and I thank God I had them. I am not saying that what Adrian Peterson did was right I don't know all the facts just saying I grew up in a generation were we was spanked. My friends y'all have a great day.

 

[HornEsch]

Heck, they used paddles with drilled holes through them on my at my elementary school. My mom used a belt, when needed. I am better for it and can't really think of a time I did not deserve it. Now saying that every kid is different and it does not work the same for them.

 

[JimsTexas]

Heck, they used paddles with drilled holes through them on my at my elementary school. My mom used a belt, when needed. I am better for it and can't really think of a time I did not deserve it. Now saying that every kid is different and it does not work the same for them.

I was kind of a cut up and it was nothing to get a couple of paddling in school a month. My friends y'all have a great day

 

[Iowa Horn]

I too was brought up by not sparing the rod, and have turned out reasonably well.  When I graduated from high school, I held the record for most licks. 

 

[castlebravo1]

With all of the government interference and the prospect of DCS being called in every time you take your kid to the ER, it's not even worth having children these days.

 

[monarch]

not to mention, the kids quickly catch on to the current political aspects of child discipline / rearing.. and then they quickly learn just how to manipulate the system as well as their parents.  once you have placed an adequate amount of discipline fear into the hearts of the parents for whom discipline their children... the game is hereby lost!

 

[streettopeschel]

i assume all of us of a certain age got paddled, either at home or maybe school.

but, nobody ever drew blood, nobody hit me in the nuts (peterson's words) and nobody shoved leaves in my mouth while they were spanking.

disciplining a child is fine, andoften needed. and there can be different methods and degrees by which to do it. but does anyobdy think the above is normal or acceptable ?

 

[monarch]

i assume all of us of a certain age got paddled, either at home or maybe school.

but, nobody ever drew blood, nobody hit me in the nuts (peterson's words) and nobody shoved leaves in my mouth while they were spanking.

disciplining a child is fine, andoften needed. and there can be different methods and degrees by which to do it. but does anyobdy think the above is normal or acceptable ?

joe, i am most certain that no one here finds what you have just so eloquently described as acceptable.  (actually, what you have just described is more akin to torture).  we are hereby referring to just plain discipline.

 

[Topstarr]

Adrian Peterson saying he will not use a switch on his child again. I am older than a lot of you and when I was growing up in the 50 and 60 i was spanked with a belt and a switch. This in no way means my parents abused me. They were loving and caring parents and I thank God I had them. I am not saying that what Adrian Peterson did was right I don't know all the facts just saying I grew up in a generation were we was spanked. My friends y'all have a great day.

my parents used razor strap and Leather Horse whip.....and just small tree limb. ....all of this back in late 40's and early 50's.

round and around in a circle with one arm hold.  we understood we did wrong.

 

[java]

Daddy used a belt or switches on us, when he really meant business, but when he said it hurt him more than it hurt us, it was obvious he meant every word.  I saw tears in his eyes more than once.  He never drew blood, and he never left a bruise.  There was never a welt that lasted more than a few hours.

I do feel that AP stepped way over the line.

If you want to see absurdity at it's worst, just reference the public schools.  

 

[JimsTexas]

With all of the government interference and the prospect of DCS being called in every time you take your kid to the ER, it's not even worth having children these days.

castlebravo1

I could not dis agree more. There is nothing like raising children and the love they give back to there parents. Going to football and basketball and volleyball games. My wife and I raised 3 two boys and a girl and If I had it to do over I would not change a thing. Don't let the Democrats and Republicans sticking there nose in your business change your mid. They have been doing that stuff for years. My friends y'all have a great day..

 

[doc longhorn]

If those on here could have seen some of the kids I have treated, you would have second thoughts about beating your child.

No one is going to convince me that beating on your child, with anything, will make that child a better person.

However, I do believe in discipline to teach a child that there are consequences for bad behavior.

I don't believe in physically abusing them - ever!

There are better ways to discipline a child. 

 

[java]

Doc, I was not a 'spanker', either.  Just couldn't do it.  We had a reward system, and it wasn't a big reward system.  It started as dimes in a 'dime jar', and they could be removed when small jobs weren't completed.  By the time she was five years old, the idea was firmly in place and responsibility was established.

Luckily, the idea stuck.

 

[JimsTexas]

If those on here could have seen some of the kids I have treated, you would have second thoughts about beating your child.

No one is going to convince me that beating on your child, with anything, will make that child a better person.

However, I do believe in discipline to teach a child that there are consequences for bad behavior.

I don't believe in physically abusing them - ever!

There are better ways to discipline a child. 

doc my friend big difference between beating a kid witch is something that should carry prison time. But spanking a kid who got out of line is not beating. Our schools back in the 50 ad 60 were a bifferant place than they are now. The teacher have to carry a gun to class. When I was in school a kid would never hit a teacher there would a penalty to pay if they did. Just the way I feel my friends y'all have a great day.

 

[doc longhorn]

"Spare the rod, spoil the child" - is the biggest bunch of BS ever written.

So, you have a 5 year old little girl/boy that is having a temper tantrum.  She/he is having a knock down, screaming meemie fit.  And you are pissed.  In fact you are angry enough to want to throttle her/him.  Of course you won't, because you are a civilized person and that is going too far.

But you are still madder than hell and you want your once of flesh.

But, how mad are you and what level of physical punishment will you administer?  Enough, by God, to show this kid you won't put up with that kind of behavior - right?  Well, how much is enough?  And, what do you beat on the kid with - hand, switch, paddle with holes in it (which leaves blood blisters, by the way - bad ones), leather straps of various lengths and widths, RODS?  Now, how much leverage and torque will you apply and to what part of the childs anatomy - in order to insure you get your point home?  Are you that precise with the level of energy and do you have pin point accuracy of the application?  Or do you even care?

The point being that the kid learns that his bad behavior will bring down hell, fire and brimstone and PAIN and that the kids parent, the one the child loves, looks up to and depends on, will metamorph into a scary engine of fear and pain.

So, the teaching mechanism becomes fear - not of the punishment, but fear of the parent turning into a monster.  A child cannot separate the two, you see.

No, we have to believe we are more intelligent and mature than a child and we have humane ways to administer corrective discipline.  We make sure the child understands that the inmates will not run the asylum and there are rules and BOTH PARENTS have to be on the same page in maintaining the rules.

For the childs sake.  Believe it or not, the child wants this and will love you for it.

 

[Capn Hook]

I agree with Doc, and I am 74.  Physical punishment was never used very often when I was growing up, and I almost never used it on my two sons.  All three of us came out well adjusted and we very well understand that certain things are simply wrong.

Don't get me wrong, I have spanked my sons, but it was done so seldom that they probably cannot remember more than a couple of times that it happened.

BTW, my sons and grandchildren think I hung the moon.